And even as we get older (and realize how much words matter...and hurt), we still tell others (even our kids) to "buck up"; "what they call you says more about them then you"... and so it goes. And the words still hurt.
Many people hide behind the statement "I am just stating a fact." MANY years ago, I started telling my kids "just because something is true, doesn't mean it needs to be said." Given the explosion of false news and "facts", now I say "just because something is said, doesn't make it true"! Both can apply.
When I think of all the subjective words we use (and represent as gospel), I am embarrassed. And it seems that now, more than ever, if we use a word to describe someone, that is all they become. And we all are so much more than just a word. Yet the more we focus on a word, the more that is only what we see.
|Word(s) can be so heavy.|
What about your child/friend/spouse with a sunny disposition? Are they never allowed to have a bad day?
Of course not. Yet our minds tend to quickly arrive at the conclusion "what you see is all there is."
The other day Terry and I were having a conversation with another couple about the City of Austin. Someone mentioned a negative (subjective) about the city which started the discussion. It would have been easy to focus on that one aspect but that day, I felt compelled to list all the things we LOVE about Austin. The entire conversation ended on a more positive note.
What if we explored all aspects...of people, of situations......OF EVERYTHING, before we reached a conclusion? And once we reach a conclusion, what if we allowed a reassessment from time to time? And were open to change?
Am I crazy? (or so much more)
Until next time,